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Mommy Moments: Grandparents Bonding

Cj met my parents the first time on webcam. I was happy to witness the look on their faces. They were first time grandparents. It was 2004. I could not go home because I was in the middle of gradschool. The plan was that my parents were coming to Bangkok for Cj's first birthday in May the next year. I was looking forward to our meeting. Then in January 2005 my father had a massive coronary. I had to change plans.
Things happened so drastically I didn't know what hit me. With my divorce raging, the pain of losing a father and the pressures of gradschool, I found myself running back home with my son. I've never appreciated my mother more than that time I had no one to turn to. I took this picture of them at Holy Garden Matutum Memorial Park months after the burial. I call this moment Cj's spiritual bonding with his grandpa.
Time to pray: this is Cj's church class. I made it a point that he was introduced to the faith of his elders while in the Philippines. Under the circumstances, Mama Lola is the best person to oversee just that.
And this was taken at a roadside cafe with Cj's paternal Khun Ya (grandma). She lost her husband to leukemia many years ago. Nowadays, we just show Cj photos of both his grandfathers.

Note: I have to edit my ex-FIL's cause of death. This morning I wrote car accident. Tonite I remembered it was leukemia. It was ex-MIL who figured in a car accident a month after the funeral. Sorry for the mix-up.

Comments

Willa said…
hay...the agony of living away from home..you never know what awaits you whenever the phone ring unexpectedly.
Chris said…
its sad that CJ didnt get to meet his grandpa... but at least grandma is still there.. thanks for sharing!
Sarah said…
Wow, that's great, though I felt bad about your situation. Are u still in Bangkok?
What do u do? Are you teaching there?
are u married to a khun Thai? sorry I have a lot of questions.
We're here in the south of Thailand, hope we can continually connect.

Here's my link:
http://sarahg26.blogspot.com/2009/05/mommy-moments-9.html
MoM from Manila said…
Grandma's are really angels on training!

my share:
http://momfrommanila.blogspot.com/2009/05/mommy-moments-gran
Meikah said…
You're a strong woman Haze. Kudos to you! These are lovely grandma photos, thanks for sharing them and your story. :)
Yami said…
Thanks for sharing your story with us. :)
Chubskulit Rose said…
whoa what a rocky road you took but Im sure your Papa is happy wherever he is now.. Your mom look so happy in this Pic..
Anya said…
What a lovely story,
and nice family shots :))

( Do not laugh,
I wear now a white t'shirt with Garfield on it...LOL
Is not age-related) ;)

Have a GREAT weekend :)
Karen said…
thanks for sharing! happy Mommy Moments
JonaBQ said…
there will really be times when we will look for the caring of our dear mother.

it's good your son and you still have a grandmother and a mother with you.

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