For the first time since I joined Mommy Moments I stared at the computer screen doing nothing before finally typing anything. Those of you who have visited my previous MM posts would have an idea why. To arrive at my point, let me touch a bit of background. I have hinted before that the ex and I had a child custody issue. It resulted in a somewhat mysterious living arrangement for Cj. When I took Cj back to Thailand, Ex put up his condo for rent and bought another property in the Bangkok suburbs. I didn't know why then but now it's apparent that the main reason for the purchase was to house Cj there with his nannies during school days.
Every week I spend more than two hours travelling to pick Cj up. That's very uncharacteristic of me as I avoid commutes like the plague. But they say that a mom can do things she normally shuns before becoming a mom. I bear with this set-up so that Cj can bond with his dad. If there's any motivation, it's in knowing that they are enjoying each other's company. 
During Cj's first year back in Bangkok, I accompanied them wherever they went. This was how I managed to take photos of them together. Once Cj's dad's girlfriend wanted to come along, but had to back off when she found out I would be around (lol). That is one advantage of being the mother. You will always be given priority in situations where kids are involved. Girlfriends, no matter how attractive or sexy, do not stand a chance if the mother implied that they are not welcome to join in the fun. And if they are using their heads, they better steer clear of a mother's path. The truth is I wouldn't have minded if that girlfriend came along. If I survived mental and emotional torture I could handle antics of a little gold-digger. Simple logic.
While possible, I let my little man bond with his old man. When it's time for the big change, Cj will have had enough memories of his father and could say, "That's my Dad!" For now I deal with my old seat in ex's car. Disconcerting, but such are the moments of a divorced mom. So I breathe. Stay beautiful. Face the music. And live to enjoy motherhood!Read more stories at The Mommy Journey.
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If I were in your place siguro, I don't like the gf to be around too. Family moments yun e.
Anyway, good to know that Cj is spending happy moments with his Dad. Very important kasi un sa emotional growth niya. :)
I agree with you sis...Stay beautiful and enjoy motherhood! God is there for you and I know He'll give you the best in life.
Mine is here: MM-That's my dad!
Our Adventures Together/
Her and History
I admire you for not being selfish and letting CJ bond with your ex.
that you tell your private story on your blog :)
So lovely and true words....
Enjoy your motherhood its very special and thankful !!
happy weekend!
Thanks for visiting my site. Hope you won't mind exchanging links with me.
eto na nga para comedy,MM entry
I added you on my blog list and blogs I'm following :)
Make or Break
God bless you sis.
thanks for sharing your life story!
mine's here:
http://momfrommanila.blogspot.com/2009/06/mommy-moments-thats-my-dad.html
"And if they are using their heads, they better steer clear of a mother's path." - love this part...
hope you can visit my entry too. cheers!
Have a great weekend =)
To Willa, all husbands have their imperfections as all wives do
To Tetcha, thanks for your lovely thoughts
To chubskulit, if not calmly, I'm sure you can handle your own troubles just as well as I did mine
To Mary Ann, I opened my eyes and mind wider than usual and learned from other women who had been in the same waters as I have
To Anya, I guess everything in my blog is personal :-)
To Den, there was one instance they bonded with actually the gf around lol... but without me. From what I discovered, the gf ended up becoming their driver lol
To Rossel, sure, let's exchange links
To Clarissa, enjoying motherhood is yes, a big deal to me
To pehpot, musta ka na! matagal din kitang di nakita :-) add din kita at punta ako maya maya sa site mo.
To Sarah, thank you, sis
To jeng, whoever invented blogging should have an award for helping nurse broken hearts
To wickedlysexy, you are welcome:)
To Beth Moreno, magkapareha yata mga utak natin dyan sa part na sinulat ko at nagustohan mo :-)
To Jacris, I am left with no other choice but to be strong
To Meikah, I hope my kiddo will understand everything in time
thanks for being part of mommy moments. i appreciate what you share with us!
take care always!